Showing posts with label helping the community. Show all posts
Showing posts with label helping the community. Show all posts

Friday, October 17, 2014

A Physician Understands

Photo courtesy Erik Thorson 2014

It's a small article by a physician, but I had only read a few lines before tears sprung to my eyes. The 2010 New York Times article is entitled "Offering Care for the Caregiver," and it hit a chord with me.

Although you can find caregiver support groups online and books on caregiving, it remains a closet profession. In the United States alone there are millions of people who care for a loved one, usually without reimbursement of any kind. As the population ages, this group will grow.

We are an unreached people group. We work long hours, give up the large and small conveniences others take for granted. It's a hard life, lived mostly unseen and forgotten by society as a whole.

We do it for love. But it does feel good when someone remembers to ask how we are. If you're a caregiver today, I pray God's blessing on your hands, feet, and heart. May He give you strength for this day, and joy in the duties ahead of you.

You are remembered. Someone does care. God sees every tear, every sacrifice, every small kindness you do for others. What you do is important, life-giving work.

I just wanted you to know.

Below is the link to the Times article. I hope it encourages you as much as it did me.


http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/22/health/21chen.html?pagewanted=1&_r=2&adxnnlx=1410969612-WbmgwZo7VmIg7oVYQ6aRJg

Monday, July 21, 2014

What's the Best Caregiving Emotion?



This week, Denise Brown, founder of Caregiving.com  posed this question on her site to caregivers everywhere:

What's the best caregiving emotion?


That's a big question. For me the answer can change from hour to hour on any given day:

~Sometimes it's just the pure joy of knowing my life is dedicated to something so crucial as helping another person live another day.

~At other times, I feel the pride of being part of helping my son conquer a trial or reach a new goal.

~I feel compassion for the hurting, the satisfaction of a job well done, appreciation for a respite day.

~I am deeply grateful for all God has done for us.

Today, though, I want to celebrate loyalty.


You may think of loyalty as a personality trait, not an emotion. And it is an admirable characteristic of human nature. But it's so much more. The feeling of loyalty is what keeps a caregiver getting up and caring for a loved one--day after day, year after year.

That dedication to someone who needs us is a powerful motivator. It pushes us beyond our normal limits, past the usual boundaries to give sacrificially, completely, without reserve.

It intertwines us with our loved one like two trees that grow together, until it is impossible to uproot one without breaking the other. Both are strengthened and stabilized in its grip.

If loyalty were a color, it would be blue, as vast as the sky above and as powerful as an ocean tide, pulling us ever upward and onward.

Beyond the pain. Above the discouragements. Into a place of peace.  

Thursday, June 12, 2014

16 Things To Do For A Weary Caregiver

According to The National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP, there are roughly 44.4 million caregivers in America. Odds are, you either know someone who is a caregiver, you’re caring for a family member yourself, or you will care for your parents someday in the future. Caregivers are selfless individuals, who either work alone at home or depend on family members for support. Caring for another person isn’t easy – it’s a full-time occupation. These men and women are strong, devoted, and loyal members of society.

Working singularly is the norm for most caregivers, because they prefer to tackle the situation on their own. This is understandable, as they would know best on how to care for a disabled or elderly family member. However, living as a caregiver can grow into a lonely task. Most friends or neighbors either don’t understand a caregiver’s situation or are uncomfortable on how to approach them. Caregivers don’t have to feel isolated. You can help.

Caregivers are independent and often forget to take care of themselves. They may appear to brush off help, but inwardly, they need it. Everyone appreciates a little assistance here and there. They may shy away from too much attention, but encouragement and support for their occupation is greatly appreciated. Your kindness won’t go unnoticed, and you may be the refreshing break that they need from their crazy routine.

*Note* This does not apply to every caregiver.

1. Send he/she an encouraging note card that says “I was thinking of you.”

2. Offer to make them a meal for lunch or dinner and drop it off at their residence. Or if they’d prefer, provide them with food from a restaurant.

3. Keep them in your prayers.

4. If they have kids, offer to take them on a fun outing for the day. Kids in a caregiver’s home will love the attention, and the parent/parents will relish the rest.

5. Buy them a cookbook for quick and easy recipes. Caregivers are limited on time, and this would make a great gift for their daily meals.


6. Set up an event party at their home for a game or movie night.

7. Call ahead to see if you could stop by for a brief visit. Lend an ear and listen to their story.

8. Offer to swing by and be Cinderella for the day. Make dinner, wash dishes, sweep and vacuum the floor, mow the lawn, walk the dog, clean the cat litter box, and empty the garbage.

9. Gift a journal, a candle, and a devotional to the family.

10. Surprise them with a gift in the mail. A bouquet of flowers. A coffee mug and a gift card to a coffee shop. Pamper them with a basket of bath and body products.


11. Give them a hug and a smile. Let them know through your actions that you’re there for encouragement.

12. Invite them to a support group, book club, or a Bible study. Caregivers are busy and they will be grateful for the invitation. Because of their schedule, they may decline it. This, of course, depends entirely on the caregiver’s position.

13. Offer to pick up their groceries and run misc. errands.

14. Plan a birthday party at their home. Holidays are hectic. Imagine how much more hectic it is for caregivers. Ask how you can best help them during the holidays. String lights, set up a Christmas tree, bake cookies. Put together a wonderful birthday celebration for their kids.

15. Do they need a wheelchair, walker, or even a heated blanket? With their permission, start a fund for raising money to supply the needed item.

16. Share with them these helpful websites: caregiving.com, caregiver.com, caregiversupport.org, christiancaregiversupport.com, restministries.com,

Most of all, weary caregivers need your love. Be there for a caregiver, and they won’t feel alone.