Showing posts with label Pam Thorson. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pam Thorson. Show all posts

Saturday, April 14, 2018

When We Reach for Uncommon Goals






It is shortly after midnight when I am awakened by the shrill beep of the backup battery at my bedside. 


As my brain struggles to emerge from of a deep sleep, a shudder runs through me. That sound can only mean that our power is out again.

We live in rural Idaho, a beautiful place teeming with wild critters (most of whom are actual animals) and nature. But sometimes nature betrays us here. And when it does, it's often the spring storms that plunge us into the dark. Twice this month, wind and rain have taken out our power.

And because our adult son Kevin has depended on a ventilator to sleep since his spinal cord injury in 1997, a power outage is a big problem for us. After his accident left him paralyzed from the neck down, Kevin was initially completely vent-dependent. But he surprised the medical world by regaining much feeling and movement. After two years of needing the ventilator for every breath, he was able to wean off for all his waking hours. He stills goes back on the ventilator at night. Without it, he can't sleep.

In the beginning, every power outage panicked us. 


It meant "bagging" him by hand with the same type of ambu bag used by emergency personnel until the electricity was restored. After he could breathe on his own, it meant staying awake until we had power again.

Over the years, we bought a couple of generators in an effort to find a way to let Kevin sleep in an emergency. These were cumbersome and loud. We graduated to deep-cell batteries and a pure sine inverter with which to keep his equipment safely running through the outages.

But an outage meant someone had to know how to switch everything over to battery power. Even with short-term battery backup until we got the other equipment in place, it was still cumbersome.

So Kevin began researching solar power. He did all the research himself, consulting with techs and combing through reviews and YouTube DIY videos. He spent hours learning how solar power works and the best system to safely power sensitive medical equipment.

It took him two years to assemble the needed supplies. He and his father brainstormed how to set up the system for the most efficient and safe conversion of sun power to electricity. They made the system off-grid so there would be no possibility of dangerous feedback to the power lines.

Hello, Idaho; nature calls.


Recently the system was finished, and before we even had a chance to take it on a test run, nature provided the opportunity. When the power flickered and died shortly after midnight. Kevin's dad Aaron, who stays up every night to ensure Kevin's safety on the ventilator, made the changeover to the solar-powered battery with a couple of switches.

To our relief, the system worked perfectly. Kevin stayed on the ventilator all night, and by the time he got off it, the system had already recharged the batteries, so they were ready for another night.

This week, it happened again. 


Once again, the system performed without a hitch.

Kevin has made a couple of additions that now allow him to safely charge his smaller devices, such as his phone and touch-pad, directly from the battery bank.

This morning, I'm grateful for a son who has taken intelligent charge of his own safety. I'm grateful for a husband who was willing to be his hands and feet in building the system. I'm thankful for the opportunity to watch them work together for a common goal. I'm inspired by this example of caregiving at its purest, as I watch a father assist his disabled son reach uncommon goals.

Tonight, other trials may keep me awake. But Kevin's independent spirit has made it possible to sleep better, knowing he will.


Saturday, November 19, 2016

Living Thankful


"I don't know how you do it."

We hear that every so often from others when they learn about our story. People often wonder how our family has been able to survive and even conquer the challenges of caregiving for so many years. My response is always to give God the glory for His keeping power over one of the most difficult seasons of our lives. We couldn't do it without Him.

But I know that any work of any value that accomplished in this life is done in partnership with the Sovereign. He has the plan, but we are His hands and feet and voice. It's His power displayed through our effort.

Caring for others is hard work.

It's easy to get in a rut. It's really easy to feel sorry for ourselves when we're tired and feeling overwhelmed. Complaining takes a lot of emotional effort and drains us of our joy.

That's why cultivating a thankful heart is key to successful caregiving. It takes work, for sure, but it's key to breaking old thought patterns that feed a sour disposition.

I'm always amazed at the joy with which our spinal-cord-injured son faces life. Sure, he has bad days, too, but he generally faces most days with a truly grateful heart. He's suffered so much that he's just glad to be alive and well. He lives without bitterness. He accomplishes what he can each day. He looks forward to the future.

I, who can move and breathe without disability, often shuffle through the days with a grumpy attitude. That makes both me and those around me miserable. So, for this Thanksgiving, I'm sharing a few things for which I should be grateful every day of the year.

For this, and much more, I'm grateful:

*The gift of Life 
After watching my son learn to breathe again, I'll never take even the next breath for granted.

*Good health
I'm so thankful that, even in my sixties, I'm still healthy and able to care for my family.

*Freedom
We have just emerged from a brutal election cycle. But I'm still amazed how this country can come together and move on in a generally civilized manner. I thank God that the citizens who peacefully disagree with those in power aren't hauled away to jail or beheaded on a beach. And I'm deeply grateful that those who are disabled and aged aren't forced to give up their lives for the supposed greater good of society. I pray that never happens in this country.

*The faithfulness of God
He is good to me, even when I'm not good to Him or others. His grace blankets our family with peace.

*The loyalty of my family 
We were always a close family, but it took a disaster for me to see how devoted they really are to each other, and how they make sure that their relationships stay solid, even in the worst of times.

Especially in the worst of times.

*Daily miracles
We were told that if would be impossible to care for our son at home. He was told it would be impossible to go home. Every day, for two decades, we have lived the impossible!

*Answered prayers
If there's anything I've learned in the last year, it is to NEVER quit praying, unless I know God's answer is no. I've had prayers answered in the last year that I had prayed for years, seemingly without an answer.

Trust in God's timing. He does hear.

*Financial provision
We never have too much. But we always have enough. The bills are paid, and there is food on the table. There's even enough to share with others and have some fun. I'm very grateful to the federal and state agencies that work hard to help us care for our son. Sometimes, when I'm feeling irritable at some regulation or bureaucratic snafu, I try to remember just how much they have done for us. They are human, too, and are trying to help, even when the red tape seems counterproductive.

I could go on and on...

There is such an embarrassment of richness bestowed on our family that I could spend the bulk of most days in an attitude of thanksgiving. Instead of waiting for the annual Turkey Day,  my heart should be on its knees saying grace every single day. Because for us, life is good.









Monday, November 16, 2015

November: National Caregiver Month


Did you know that November is National Caregiver Month? In all honesty, neither did I, not until my Mom shared that bit of info with me. It's probably not something that most people know about or truly remember. We should, though. It's not a thought that you can just brush under the rug, because more than likely, you know a caregiver. According to studies, there are millions upon millions of caregivers in America that work 24/7 with their own family members. That's quite the number!

If you have a little extra time today, I would encourage you to appreciate a caregiver in your life. It doesn't have to be huge, just a simple gesture to let someone know that you're there is often enough. But, in case you're not sure on how to help your friend, you can do these things for him or her:

1) Show them your appreciation by sending a thinking of you card.
2) Gift them a special mug, gift card, or devotional.
3) Send them a personal message on Facebook with words of encouragement.
4) Lift them and their family up in prayer.
5) Give them a hug and a smile.
6) Offer to pick up their groceries and run misc. errands.
7) Do they need a wheelchair, walker, or even a heated blanket? With their permission, start a fund to supply that needed item.

In 2014, I wrote an article on 16 Things To Do For A Weary Caregiver. If you feel led in helping us spread this appreciation to others, be sure to read my article (provided as a link above). In all truth, there are many ways that you can show a caregiver in your life some appreciation during this month. Just remember to do whatever feels best, and I'm sure that caregiver in your life will feel cherished.

Most of all, though, caregivers just need your love. Be there for a caregiver, and they won’t feel alone. And I'm sure that because of your kindness, they will know that someone out there cares about their well-being. So what are you waiting for? Go on! Cheer on a fellow friend or family member today!

In honor of caregivers everywhere, author and caregiver Pam Thorson is offering her newest book in a Goodreads giveaway. Enter for a chance to win one of ten paperback, signed copies of "Out from the Shadows: 31 Devotions for the Weary Caregiver." To put your name in the hat, click here to join other Goodreads members in the drawing.

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Book Review: Out from the Shadows

Out from the Shadows: 31 Devotions for the Weary Caregiver by Pam Thorson. 5 Stars

Out from the Shadows is a devotional with thirty-one inspirational segments. Each chapter includes a verse at the beginning, a short life lesson, a personalized prayer, and a section for private reflections. Written by author Pam Thorson, she offers Caregivers a peaceful reprise from their weary-laden days.

Released through Lighthouse Publishing of the Carolinas, Out from the Shadows serves to bring devoted Caregivers out from the darkness and into the light of hope.


{My Thoughts}

I know that in writing this review, I will be a bit biased in favor of my Mom’s book. I would say that you’re probably right, but I wanted to give her one, anyways. Since I’m a book reviewer, I couldn’t possibly say no to adding my own thoughts to her two titles (her first book is Song in the Night). Putting that all aside, I wanted to pen an honest and detailed analysis of Out from the Shadows.

While Out from the Shadows is geared towards Caregivers, it is not exclusive to that niche. Anyone can pick up a copy of this title and find the same encouragement from within. What I liked most about this devotional, is the secluded area for my own personal reflections. There’s a set of five questions arranged at the end of every chapter with extra lines for written notes. Love it when a devo has this! I am inadvertently a notetaker, so I need lots and lots of space for my writing.

I like to list my favorite devotionals/chapters and book quotes into my book reviews. Here’s mine for Out from the Shadows - Chapter One: Jimmy’s Hunger. This chapter is dear to my heart because it’s a true tidbit from the childhood of my Grandpa – an amazing man of God. I don’t want to reveal why, exactly. You will need to read it and find out for yourself. Favorite book quote is, “My dad’s hunger for God inspired my own search for life’s meaning. His determination to break free has challenged me to wear my heavenly Father’s name with integrity and leave a legacy my family can be proud to claim.”

The book cover is perfect for the theme surrounding Out from the Shadows. I’m reviewing the paperback copy, so I can really see the transition from black to white on the image. It portrays a beautiful message to Caregivers that we can walk out from beneath our burdens and into a state of joy.

I am honored to be a part of my Mom’s authorship. Being her Office Assistant has been a blessing, and I wanted to honor her hard work with my acknowledgment in this book review.  Normally, I mention if I received a book in exchange for my honest review. In this case, I bought a copy of Out from the Shadows for my own use without the agreement of writing a book review. In other words, I did not receive a copy from the author or publishing house in exchange for a review – still honest, however! Hehe.

There is obviously no area on Amazon for any autographed copies of my Mom’s books. If you’d like a signed paperback edition of Out from the Shadows, please send me an e-mail here. Be sure to also read Pam Thorson’s first self-published book, Song in the Night: One Family’s Journey from Darkness to Dawn – a true life chronicle on our family’s response to a tragic accident.

Thursday, October 2, 2014

You're Invited to our Song in the Night E-Book Release Party! Starting this Saturday...


There's a Song in the Night E-Book Release Party this Saturday on Facebook. It's an online event celebrating the release of Pam's first book "Song in the Night" in e-book format (which is available on Amazon's Kindle). There will be a 3-hour day full of remembrance. This will include photos, quotes from her book, a video, engaging questions/answers, and giveaways. Only invited participants who are attending can enter in the giveaways. Don't forget to ask your friends and family to join! The more, the merrier!


Starting this Saturday, Pam's first book "Song in the Night" will be on sale for a limited time of $.99. This will only last a week, so be sure to grab your copy then! Click here to be directed to the Amazon page for this Kindle deal (check back on Saturday). Be sure to share this with your friends! 



Here's your online invitation to join us on October 4th from 2:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. for the Song in the Night e-book celebration! Please, R.S.V.P. with clicking the "join" button for going on Facebook. Hand in your online invitation here.

Monday, September 15, 2014

25 Helpful Books For Caregivers


A Long and Winding Road: A Caregiver's Tale of Life, Love and Chaos by Linda Brendle


Ambushed by Grace: Help and Hope on the Caregiving Journey by Shelly Beach


Strength for the Moment: Inspiration for Caregivers by Lori Hogan


Not Alone: Encouragement for Caregivers by Nell Noonan


Out from the Shadows: 31 Devotions for the Weary Caregiver by Pam Thorson




Daily Comfort for Caregivers by Barbour Publishing




Transitions, Trust, and Triumph: A Daily Devotional for Caregivers by Jean D. Moody-Williams


Strength to the End: A Caregiver's Journey by Lucy P. Carter


Twice Blessed: Encouragement for the Caregiver and the Carereceiver by Laura Sowers


Help for the Caregiver: Facing the Challenges with Understanding and Strength by Michael R. Emlet


Hope for the Caregiver: Encouraging Words To Strengthen Your Spirit by Peter Rosenberger


Caregivers' Devotions to Go by Gigi Devine Murfitt


Blessings & Prayers for Caregivers: A Devotional Companion by Annetta Dellinger and Karen Boerger


Soul Care for Caregivers: How to Help Yourself While Helping Others by Susanne West


Finding Your Way: A Spiritual GPS for Caregivers by Sandy Lovern


Song in the Night: One Family's Journey From Darkness To Dawn by Pamela Thorson


Chicken Soup for the Soul: Family Caregivers: 101 Stories of Love, Sacrifice, and Bonding by Joan Lunden and Amy Newmark


124 Prayers for Caregivers by Joan Guntzelman


Devotions for Caregivers: A Month's Supply of Prayer by Marilyn Driscoll


A Caregiver? Me? by Lynda Bush


Strength & Courage for Caregivers: 30 Hope-Filled Morning and Evening Reflections by Terry Hargrave


The Hope of Glory: A Devotional Guide for Older Adults by Nancy Parker Brummett


At the Heart of the Matter: A Spiritual Journey for Caregivers by Dr. Eboni Ivory Green

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

14 Quotes For Caregivers: Part 2

 "The hero is you."

 "What greater thanks can we give to a loving Creator than to relish the treasure of a new dawn and trust Him to take care of our tomorrows?"

"As we struggle to keep our heads above water in the midst of the storm, we may not realize God is already engaged in our rescue."

 "This is the day to lay aside the grief over what we have lost, to cease striving for what we long to gain, and to simply rejoice in all we have been given."

"It's not where you come from, but where you're headed, that matters."

"Since God hasn't revealed the next turn in our lives, we must resist the urge to peer ahead and guess where the road is taking us."

 "Throughout a world descending into darkness, God searches for those who refuse to be satisfied until the glory of God radiates from every corner of their lives."


Last Week // 14 Quotes For Caregivers: Part 1.

Photos by Grace Thorson. Quotes by Pam Thorson (Out from the Shadows: 31 Devotions for the Weary Caregiver. Available on Amazon.com in both Paperback and Kindle format.Ask for a signed copy here.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

The Invisible Man: When We're Feeling Alone


Their faces smile back at me from the Facebook page. They're posing for the camera at a local restaurant. They swam and laughed at the annual "Chicks in the Sticks" camp-out. They're planning a girls' trip to the coast. Events at which I wasn't invited and knew nothing about.

Things I used to do before I became a full-time caregiver and an invisible (wo)man.

Not that I could do any of those things, anyway. My job doesn't come with vacation time. My husband, youngest daughter, and I carry the duties of caring for my quadriplegic son largely without respite. Our other children help whenever they can, but the day-to-day responsibilities are ours.

And I wouldn't have it any other way. I love my job. I love caring for our son. The gains far exceed any sacrifices we've had to make along the way. Since my son's accident seventeen years ago, I've become a certified nurses' aide and then a licensed practical nurse. I've written two books. I speak regularly to others about God's work in our lives. My life is busy and fulfilling.

But sometimes, I see the abandon with which others do things that would take days of planning for me, things which are totally impossible for us now. They all look so carefree. So abundantly full of time and energy and each other.

So totally out of my reach.

Recently my children arranged a rare two-day outing for my husband and I to celebrate our anniversary. As we took in the sights of a nearby city, we saw vacationing families everywhere. People with boats and cabins and time on their hands. I asked my husband, the one who stays up every night to watch over our son as he sleeps on the ventilator, if it bothered him that we didn't have the lives of most people our age. I knew how much he used to look forward to retirement and a chance to travel the country.

He turned to me with a smile and said, "No, I don't. You and are doing something together that is important for our son and for God."

Wow.

How could I forget that Facebook and television and the world I see around me aren't the true reality, but snapshots of lives suffering their own hardships? Everyone feels alone at times.


"Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else."
-Galatians 6:4 NIV


While it's true that caregivers often work alone and behind the scenes, we aren't really invisible. We're the point men in a fierce battle for the lives of those who are vulnerable, disabled, or ill. We give hope to the living and comfort to the dying.

Yes, it can be a lonely job. But we're never invisible. At least not to the ones for whom we care and with whom we walk side-by-side.

And to the God who has called us to this wonderful journey.

Monday, August 25, 2014

14 Quotes For Caregivers: Part 1

"Caregiving is not gray, unless we have allowed our hearts to let go of hope."

"No place is so dark, no shadow so deep, that God can't find us."

"Caregivers live in the daily shadows of death, countless duties, and shattered dreams. But they don't have to exist in the shadows of their faith."

"Forgiveness is a strange kind of walled garden - exceedingly ugly as we approach it, but breathtakingly beautiful once we've stepped inside."

"Not one to be impressed with or put off by outward appearances, God sees us as we truly are."

"Run in the direction you're driven."

"In the stillness of night, when the life of one man depends upon the sacrifice of another, nothing speaks louder than loyalty."


Next Week // 14 Quotes For Caregivers: Part 2.

Photos by Grace Thorson. Quotes by Pam Thorson (Out from the Shadows: 31 Devotions for the Weary Caregiver. Available on Amazon.com in both Paperback and Kindle format.) Ask for a signed copy here.